J Baker
Nov 24, 2018

Subsidizing Fatherhood

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Edited: Nov 24, 2018

You've got to check out this article. Incentivizing Dad's staying home. This hasn't made it's way over to American yet but what do you think? I'm torn here. I know it's CRITICAL for children to have strong male influence in their lives. However, I feel like traditional gender roles may be under massive attack here.

 

Several Questions come to mind for me:

1. Are the roles of men and women getting blurred here?

2. Do you think women and men are DIFFERENT in regard to parenting?

3. What's the role of a Dad in the family unit?

4. If you're a business owner would you feel compelled to offer this type of benefit?

 

Let me know your thoughts below! I respond to every comment.

 

Read the Article Here: https://www.shortlist.com/uncategorized/the-truth-about-being-a-dad-in-2018/350056

 

 

 

 

 

 

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